All My Single Ladies: How to get a man to commit !
Say Something !
There's a dating myth I want to clear up first of all. "Playing hard to get" is not the answer! By not responding to texts, not answering calls, and pulling away from him in moments of affection only sends a signal that you're not interested. There's a balance to everything, you have to show interest in some way. Whether it's a flirty smile when you see him, a hug when you leave him, simply starting a conversation, or laughing at his jokes. It's the little things that keep you on his mind.
The courtship process is the most important stage of the relationship. Getting to know you're potential mate first and foremost is the key to building a solid foundation. We've all been in a situation that was based off looks, or how well he/she dressed, or other shallow things of that nature. I can guarantee the one thing those relationships have in common is that they simply did not last! If you're trying to have a relationship like your grandma and grandpa, you have to remember to apply the old-fashioned values they had in that era. I can't stress it enough how important it is to build a friendship through dating and spending quality time before being sexual!
Know Who You're Dealing With
There's a couple measures you should take prior to dating someone; Visit his social networks to get an idea if he's someone you can vibe with on a real level. If his interests and ideas match yours, you will most likely mesh better with this person long term. Also do an astrology compatibility test with his sign and yours, this will give you an idea how the relationship will flow.
Men have a constant need for change. It's very important to keep this in mind throughout all the stages of a relationship. Whether you're still in the friendship stage or have been married 20 years, never forget to keep things fresh! There's a few ways to accomplish this; Never give him all of your personality at once, introduce him to who you are in small doses. Let him ask the questions, never offer more information than he's asking of you. In addition it's very important to stimulate him visually. Wear different colors each time you see him. Change hairstyles often, rotating buns, ponytails and wearing hair down. Be sure to take a break from make up every now and then. Men are not a big fan of make up and they want to see you in your natural state to get an idea of what they'd potentially be waking to. Also, a change of scene is super important in dating. Try new restaurants often, invite him to your place to cook for him, visit piers, go bowling, play pool, always be doing something new!
If a man likes you he loves feeling like you want him, but it's a major turn off for a man to feel like you are too needy. Being able to give a man space is a trait they love to see in a woman, because sadly these days it's very rare. Showing dependency is a quick way to put the fire out in any relationship no matter what stage it's in. Feeling unable to let someone leave is a sign that you're not at all even ready to be in relationship. Being with someone else is merely to add to your already happy life, not to fix all the problems in it. Until you're happy being alone you can't be sure you've picked a guy out of love or loneliness.
Here are a few guidelines to follow to ensure a guy doesn't feel you're too needy; If he says he'll call you back, never spazz out and beat him to the punch! Anytime you feel the urge to call him call a friend instead, it'll ease the urge. Keep yourself occupied throughout the day with things you like to do to keep your mind busy. Whether it takes a day, a week, or it never comes you have to be able to accept it. Also it's never a good idea to talk about a guy too specifically on your social networks, it sends the wrong impression that his secrets are not safe with you. Additionally when your guy has to leave you, let him know you're going to miss him but let him go gracefully. It's also a good look to be the one to initiate the departure from time to time. This sends him a message that you have a life outside of him, and makes him eager to be apart of it.
Be a Lady
Show off your femininity, men love to see your soft side. Cross your legs, hold up your posture, blow kisses, stand close to him looking up into his eyes, grab his arm as you walk, try to always show him with body language how much you like/love him. And when taking a relationship to the next level you have to enhance those very things. Dance for your man, cook for him in lingerie, massage his back, catch his eyes from across the room, always be reminding him why he's in love with you.
Keep Your Options Open
All your eggs should never be in one basket until you solidify yourself into a mutually committed relationship. Dating is a process of elimination to find the one that best matches with your personality. Liking someone is not a valid reason to block all the other guys trying to be in your life, especially if the one you like isn't doing the same. Life itself is a game of narrowing, and by keeping your options open until you're sure you're making the right decision you'll save yourself the hassle of having to start over entirely.
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